God’s Purpose for Sex: Sex is About Intimacy


This is part two of my seven-part series on the “Purpose for Sex.” Read Part 1: Sex is Worship. When we participate in sex it is an opportunity to worship Almighty God!

Why am I doing a series on this?

  1. Many of the men and students I have helped were not taught the true purpose of sex growing up, either in their homes or in church.
  2. Culture is teaching many false things about sex and its purpose.
  3. If I understand the purpose for sex, then I have a much better shot of understanding God’s boundaries.

I think the Bible teaches us that there are 7 purposes for sex.  Here they are:

  1. Sex is worship.
  2. Sex is about intimacy.
  3. Sex demonstrates faithfulness.
  4. Sex is intended to be a selfless act.
  5. Sex is for pleasure.
  6. Sex produces a Godly heritage.
  7. God honoring sex can only be heterosexual.

In today’s post, we will look at how “Sex is About Intimacy.”

In my last post, I discussed how God created us for the express purpose of worshiping Him, and this includes sex. What an amazing thought, that the God of the universe created us to worship Him.

The only way we can worship Him like this is if we have relationship with Him. Because of sin (the wrong things we do), we are separated from God and cannot have a relationship with Him. That is why Jesus left heaven, came to earth, lived a perfect life, and died as a perfect sacrifice for us on the cross. He rose from the dead and ascended back into Heaven. He did all this to bring glory to God, and it brings glory to God to make a way for us to worship Him. Christ’s death and resurrection made it possible for us to have a relationship with God, and through this relationship, we can live a life of worship to God.

Think about it: The God of the Universe wants us to worship Him! What a privilege! The God of the Universe gives us the chance to know Him and have relationship with Him.

God actually wants to have deep intimacy and connection with us. Revelation 3:20 says, “Behold, I stand at the door and knock; if anyone hears My voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and will dine with him, and he with Me.” God wants to dine with us, hang out, connect, etc.! What He really wants with us is intimacy!

In Genesis 1-2, He experienced intimacy like this with Adam and Eve before they sinned. He experiences the same intimacy with those who commit their lives to follow Christ, assuming these followers let Christ pursue them for this intimacy.

Life is truly about having intimacy with God and worshiping Him. My life of worship towards God flows out the intimacy I have with Him.

What does this have to do with sex?

Genesis 2:24-25 tells us, “For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.”

God designed sex to take place in the context of marriage. The husband and wife are to leave mom and dad, and they are to connect to one another. In this connection, they become one. In the act of sex, two become one. Two bodies are literally joined together, and they are experiencing physical intimacy. It is so much more than that, though. When one has sex, there is an intimate connection deep within that person’s heart and soul, and brain science is showing us that there is literally a bond that occurs between two people when they engage in a sex act.

Sex is designed to produce a bond. It is designed to be intimate, and in this intimacy, there is no shame. When I have sex God’s way, I experience deep intimacy with my spouse, and there is no shame when the sex act is complete. In fact, there is the exact opposite of shame. There is this great feeling of being connected.

Here comes the awesome part: When a husband and wife experience intimacy, they are reflecting the same intimacy that God wants with us. I am not saying God wants a sexual relationship with us. He wants intimacy!

He wants us to be connected to Him, bonded to Him, one with Him. When I commit my life to Jesus, he sends His Holy Spirit to live inside of me. When I experience intimacy with God I am doing this through the power of the Holy Spirit. The goal is that I would be having such great intimacy with God that I am literally one with the Holy Spirit inside of me. This intimacy leads me to worship of God. It is worship because I am one with Him.

Sex is about intimacy, about oneness. When I do this God’s way, it is worship. When I do it His way, it is about intimacy (intimacy with my spouse and reflecting intimacy with Him). When I have sex God’s way, it is simply beautiful!

If you are reading this and you are single, would you wait for the one God has for you to be intimate with? If He calls you to singleness, will you let intimacy with Him be enough? If you are single and have already participated in sex outside of God’s plan, will you repent and experience God’s forgiveness? If this is you, here are some passages to read:

If you don’t know Christ:

If you do know Christ:

If you are reading this and are married, would you commit to let sex be about intimacy and about worship of God? If we would do this, then it’s very hard to be selfish sexually. We will talk about the selfless aspect later in this series.

Will we commit to do sex God’s way? Will we pursue true sexual intimacy with our spouse if married? Ultimately, will all of us choose to dine with Jesus and have deep intimacy with Him? To do life and sex like this would be an act of worship to God. Are you seeing how these purposes go together?


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